Get a grip on reality

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  15. I just want to draw your attention to one thing I said in my post about the friend who stood by me when I had cancer. While I don't particularly crave a Taken in Hand relationship and I don't look at and classify men or women into particular types according to levels of dominance, my friend was not kind and supportive from a position of weakness.
  17. I did mention that though it was not the focus of our friendship at all, he knew how to put his foot down. Let me give you two examples. One: I went through a very frightening period when the doctors believed my cancer had spread. I was scheduled to go into the hospital and have a CAT-scan assisted needle biopsy into my left femur where a bone scan and MRI had revealed a mass.
  19. Hearing this, Richard insisted he was going to meet me at the hospital. I had to be there very early in the morning, before his home attendant would show up. He was under doctor's orders not to leave the house without his home attendant. Knowing this, I protested that I was going with my husband and that it would be dangerous for Richard to come out.
  21. Richard cut off my (valid) protests, saying, "NO,I'm coming, because I know how scared you are!" Talk about having the wind taken out of my sails. What could I say to that, but, "Thank you?"
  23. In the second instance I was talking about the alleged spread (by the way: the doctors were wrong)of cancer and was about to say, "the cancer in my leg." Richard picked up on where I was going and just about shouted in my ear, "Don't say it!"
  25. Then there was a silence of several seconds. I think we were both shocked as he had never raised his voice to me and I think he was shocked that he had done so. Finally I said, "All right..I won't say it."
  27. You could call it being "taken in hand" but I don't. I just call those two episodes strong evidence of love and caring. He didn't have to spank me or anything else to get his point across. We could debate whether he was right or not about both those instances, but he stood up for what he believed in.
  29. Kind and supportive don't equal weak and timid. This man stared death in the face a number of times and still kept loving, kept visiting the sick and bereaved..even though he was even sicker...and kept on laughing. He was a little skinny guy who didn't weigh more than 140 lbs. but you bet he had presence. We called him "Mother Teresa."
  31. As I said, I don't know where he'd be on this arbitrary continuum and I don't care. He has a place in my heart forever.
  33. by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Sep 28 - 17:15 | reply to this comment
  34. This Structure
  35. Actually this structure in personal public relations is very valid, IN GROUPS! it becomes irrelevant in individual relationships. the reason you ask?

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